Win10 seems to know the device is there, it makes the noise when its plugged in and unplugged. In Devices Manager it shows libusbK USB > flirc. Just that the software never changes to a happy face.
EDIT: turns out I have a dual boot Linux Mint 19 that i completely forgot about. I went into there, ran the Debian installer, ran the Flirc util, then when I plugged in the device it came back with "do you want to update the firmware from 1.2 to 3.11" After that it came up fine in my linux distro. I wonder if Windows will see it fine now as well.
EDIT2: Now Win10 sees my device. Earlier I did have to use that Zagit utility but I still was getting the disconnect device, but now I get the driver and the device recognized.